We recently held our first Mindful EssentialHz Talk Radio call, and our first conversation was "The Other Side of Grief". The call discussed how we experience grief, and recognized that grief can show up in our lived in many ways. Participating in the call was myself, Catherine Morgan and Lisa McGitty. We also invited callers to call in and participate in the conversation.
We discussed the different aspects of grief, first talking about the grief from a loved one passing. Death can be an extremely devastating experience for the survivors. We discussed how death can many times take two lives for the price of one. My 23 year old son passed in 2012, and Lisa's 24 year old son passed just last October. We are intimately familiar with the journey of grief, and we shared about our journeys.
I also shared insights from a hypnotherapy standpoint and the power of the mind. Feelings are so important to feel, however without a road map, we can be lost in the feelings of guilt, and deep despair leaving us hopelessness and numb. Part of the intent of this call was to encourage and enlighten listeners in ways they could process their grieving feelings to finding the other side of grief.
Some other conversation was also held recognizing that grief could show up in our lives in many ways. I work with many people who are experiencing grief about their lives. We may have experienced a divorce, a loss of a job, a loss of a home, the loss of sacred and dear friendships. These are just some of the other ways grief can show up in our lives. Either I read this or a person said to me early in my journey that "grief is not just one feeling, rather it is a multitude of feelings." I think its especially important to recognize that even the idea of grief usually creates a deep sinking feeling, and often times it is not something people will easily discuss.
The underlying belief systems we hold about grief greatly impact our experience with grief. In hypnotherapy we recognize that beliefs create our thoughts, and our thoughts create our feelings, and our feelings create our experiences. We understand that emotion is energy in motion. We can easily be truly overpowered by grief, just like we can with fear. We discussed some ways we could observe our feelings, however, provided insight on ways not to give all of our power to these depleting feelings.
Another type of grief we discussed was that of a passing of our dear furry friends. Animal lovers are lovers, and their furry friends are just like furry kids. We bond with animals in a very special way. Just after this call, Catherine's 11 year old Chihuahua, Snickers, crossed over the rainbow bridge. It created trauma, despair and a grief for her that is just as real and heart hurting as any other grief.
My personal lesson on grief has taught me not only does grief create a wound in the heart, but it also creates a scar of the soul. It has also taught me that I can give all of my power to these grieving feelings, or I can recognize them, experience them, but not become them. I realize that I don't say I Am a headache. So I am mindful to use words such as I feel very sad, instead of giving all of my power away in the statement of I Am sad. The Laws of the Mind teach us that emotion is stronger than thought, and the strongest emotion will always win. Being aware to allow those grieving feelings, yet not become them, can be some of the helpful ways we can grieve.
Whatever journey of grief you may be on today, it is our deepest wish to let you know you are not alone. It was our hope this call provided a path to finding relief in your journey. We have recorded the call so it can be listened to again for anyone needing understanding and compassion in their journey of grief, please see the link below. If you have listened to the call and found it helpful, please share your comments as others may benefit as well from your words.
We wish you blessings of peace along your journey.
Recording of our call "The Other Side of Grief"